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How to Step Your Sex Game Up With Dirty Talk
Ghostface knew: Sometimes verbal intercourse makes all the difference
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If you’ve been with your partner for a while, there may be a need to switch things up a bit. Do you both know the locations of every mole and childhood scar? Do you know how to bring her to orgasm in three easy steps? Do you incorporate those three steps every… single… time? (I have a friend who calls that “using the cheat codes.”)
If you know things are getting dry, there are options. If there weren’t, I wouldn’t write about it every week! You could always try a different position. You could introduce toys. You could watch porn together, even fantasize about adding a third to the party. (I say fantasize because, really, just don’t do that. It’s one of those things that seems like a good idea but never is. Starting out in an open relationship? Fine. Throupling up for spice? Someone’s gonna be left in the cold.) But there are subtle ways, too — and I’ve got one that’s easy, free, and fun. All you need is your mouth and a little bit of creativity.
Dirty talk. That’s it. That’s the tip.
Get in that ear and make her blush! When we finally get to dine out again, pull her in close on the way home and tell her your plans. Talking dirty is one of the safest ways to keep her on her toes and let her know you’re not predictable.
Maybe talking dirty isn’t your thing. Totally fine. It happens. My dude is the same way. In a crowded room, he’ll find someone he connects with and have a spirited discussion. But in general, he’s not particularly boisterous. Part of the reason our relationship works is because I’m okay with being the center of attention and being Jersey-girl loud if need be. And he’s content with scanning the room and staying South Bronx cool.
No one needs a motormouth when we’re just getting warmed up, but sometimes the right word can send us over the toe-curling edge.
