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Don’t Miss Out on the Joy of Sex Toys

She might be hiding them in the closet. But she likely does own a few.

Aliya S. King
LEVEL
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5 min readMay 15, 2020

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Illustration: Janet Sung

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I’m not a sexpert. Not by any means. Yes, this column delves into sex more weeks than not. But it’s generally a healthy dose of my own experiences mixed with some reporting and a little women’s intuition.

That said, just because I’m in a committed relationship with a healthy sex life doesn’t mean I can always use my own experiences every time I sit down to write.

Like, say, this week. We all know that experimentation is the key to avoiding boredom, which can be the death knell of any relationship; we also all know that sex toys are a big part of that. But my own history with toys is limited at best. I own a lipstick-sized vibrator for solo use; it gets the job done, and that’s it. Nothing mind-blowing whatsoever. It’s the orgasm equivalent of getting a piece of crab meat out from between your molars: Feels better, moving on.

Between replies, DMs, and texts, more than 100 women had weighed in — and they were all rhapsodizing over their…

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Aliya S. King
LEVEL

Aliya S. King is an author, freelance writer and editor.