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Yes, She’s Cheating On You

LEVEL’s resident sexpert breaks down the common causes of infidelity

Shan Boodram
LEVEL
Published in
3 min readJan 17, 2020

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Illustration: Janet Sung

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Women get naked and slide into my DMs daily.

Just to clarify: I don’t get any nudes. Because of the work that I do as a public sex and relationship educator, though, my inboxes tend to serve as a confessional for those looking to expose their fears, forks in the road, fails, and fuck-ups.

The numbers don’t lie. You might want to dip into her DMs and see what’s going on. (Actually, no. Don’t do that. Ever.)

If she’s taking classes, having vision-board events, going to the gym, and learning Spanish, you’d better have your own goals too — or she could look for someone who does.

Here’s the awful truth: Since 1990, the rate of married men who report cheating on their spouse has remained the same, about 25%. For women, that number is smaller—but it’s also shot up in recent years, increasing by 40%.

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