When You Hear, ‘Sorry, But I Don’t Date Across Racial Lines’

In Cape Town, gay men gave me a crash course in racism

The historical district of Bo-Kaap in Cape Town, South Africa, on July 25, 2018. Photo: RODGER BOSCH/AFP via Getty Images

As I sat across from my new American acquaintance in a Cape Town bar, I felt uneasy. I had nothing significant to contribute to our conversation about sex and the city.