A Note to My Trump-Loving Facebook Friends

You’re quiet out there now that your leader is gone. Don’t expect us to lower the volume while celebrating this victory.

Jeremy Helligar
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3 min readNov 8, 2020


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It’s funny how an election changes situations.

Many of you have been uncharacteristically quiet over the last couple of days, or maybe Facebook’s algorithm gods are just sparing my sanity. Either way, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the silence right now. Crickets all over.

Unfortunately, posts from some of you popped up all through Election Day/ week, when President-elect Joe Biden pulled ahead of Donald Trump in those crucial swing states. You started to plead with everyone to suddenly get along and sing “Kumbaya.” We’re all Americans and human beings, you remind us, so we shouldn’t hate those whose opinions differ from ours.

In general, I agree, but your patronizing tone and lack of apparent joy over the new day dawning reveal where your sympathies lie. You voted for Trump, the antithesis of the kind of person you tell us to be. Your hypocrisy is showing, and it’s a terrible look.

By trying to dash hard-won joy with counterprogramming posts, you’ve lost the right to expect civility going forward.

Where are your calls for love and mercy when police across the U.S. slaughter Black and Brown people? Or when Trump fanned the flames of racism across the country by openly endorsing White supremacy?

Where were you when James Fields Jr. drove his car into a crowd of anti-racism protesters in Charlottesville, Virginia, and killed Heather Heyer?

Where were your calls for love and mercy when Kyle Rittenhouse gunned down two Black Lives Matter protesters in Kenosha, Wisconsin?

Did you call for unity when LGBTQ gains were being chipped away? Or when children were locked up in cages? Or when women’s reproductive rights are questioned?

We don’t need long memories to recall when you insisted on countering “Black Lives Matter” with “All Lives Matter.” You know the story. It’s been on repeat during the last four years, Black people murdered by racists and…



Jeremy Helligar
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