Dear Level
Are You Down to Incorporate Pain Into Your Sex Life?
Are you ready for some bondage?!
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Over nearly half a year of writing Dear Level, I’ve enjoyed sharing my thoughts, learning new things, testing the limits of my partner’s privacy, and taking informal polls. But this week’s topic is a little spicy, even by my standards. (And yes, I still stand behind my endorsement of butt play!)
There’s a time and place to test the limits of what feels comfortable or predictable, particularly for readers who are in trusting relationships and looking to liven things up. Go ahead and test those limits — as long as you and your partner are on the same page. Now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk BDSM!
You know the acronym and the basics, but maybe you’ve never dared to try it for yourself. Even so, your sex life might be closer to the realm of BDSM than you realize. Here’s a refresher. (Full disclosure: I’m not about this life. At least, um, not right now.)
Swapping a solid paddle for one with a hole in the middle (and thus less wind resistance) can quickly take things from…
