The first time I met Chris, he told me he had AIDS. And I laughed out loud.
Let me explain.
We were at a brunch last year hosted by a notable Twitter/media personality. Every so often, she gathers a group of folks from various industries for food and drinks and some low-pressure networking. Not my thing, usually, but I was there as my boyfriend’s plus-one — well, one of his plus-two. He also invited his brother Chris so we could meet. Except Chris was late.
Eventually, I saw him step in, dapper and assured. He surveyed the room and then…
I’m not an HIV expert, but I do know what it feels like to wait to find out whether you’re positive.
The window period is the time it takes for the body to produce HIV antibodies that can be detected by an HIV antibody test — and it can last from three weeks to as many as 12 weeks. During my lifetime, I’ve had to wait in that window a few times. There were even times I was in the window and didn’t know.
The first time I found myself there was in 2004. When we finished having sex, I…