Dear Level
Sorry, But You’ll Never Be ‘One’ With Your Partner
The key to a happy relationship: Don’t lose yourself
When you get married or settle down, there’s this popular idea that you have to become one with your person. This concept is even a part of some marital vows. Thing is, it ruins more relationships than it saves.
The truth of the matter is that, like it or not, you’ll always be a singular individual, even when you’re no longer single. This reality means that over the years you will likely grow at a different speed, time, and direction than your partner. For most couples, when one person’s growth is not complementary to that of their mate, it means certain doom for their relationship. For more compatible couples, however, even though each person is constantly growing and changing, the speed, timing, and direction of that growth melds beautifully with their partner’s.
Choosing a compatible partner can’t be rushed. It takes years to get to know someone and ensure their trajectory is compatible with yours. Unfortunately, most of us are rushing in and out of relationships without fully understanding to whom we’re committing. Even worse, it often takes years for a fake perfect partner to drop their mask and reveal their true self. By the time they do, the relationship is already…
