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Sorry, But You’ll Never Be ‘One’ With Your Partner

The key to a happy relationship: Don’t lose yourself

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When you get married or settle down, there’s this popular idea that you have to become one with your person. This concept is even a part of some marital vows. Thing is, it ruins more relationships than it saves.




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Elisabeth Ovesen

Elisabeth Ovesen

3x New York Times bestselling author, Senior Copywriter, and essayist. https://www.lilibetovesen.com/

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