‘Michael, You’re Black’: Coming to Terms With My Mixed Identity

Acknowledging my history helped me lower my family’s smoke screens

Photo: Carlos Javier Noguera/EyeEm/Getty Images

It would take many years after that moment in a North Shore Staten Island high school — including coming out — to realize that as I wish to live unapologetically gay, I should also live unapologetically Black.

New Yorker. Writer. Skier. Slightly Pretentious. Mostly Romantic. Occasionally humorous.

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