Dear LEVEL
It’s Okay to Not Want Sex. But You Can Still Focus On Her.
Sometimes you’re just not in the mood. For those times, consider the Off Day.
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You’re a grown man. Your partner is likely grown, too. (I mean, they’d better be.) And depending on how long you’ve been together, that means you’ve settled into a groove when it comes to how often you two have sex. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or still swiping left and right, you’re clear on whether you want to have sex every day, once a month, or somewhere in between.
But here’s the catch: We live in a world where sex between cis-het men and women naturally follows the lead of the man. Sex usually begins when he’s fully aroused and ends at the finish line — his finish line. So, if you’re one of those men, when is the last time you approached sex with the singular aim of pleasuring her, wIth no thought to your own orgasm?
It’s probably been a while, if at all. But that doesn’t mean you can’t keep it in mind, even if you’re in a no-sex stretch. Think of it as an Off Day: You may not get the workout, but you still reap the benefits.
