“He came across as a well-educated bigot. I’d encountered plenty of those, though I’d never been rejected by a guy who specifically offered my race as the reason.”

Online dating can be an exciting, harried, or terrible experience. Add racism to the mix, and it can get ugly. Jeremy Helligar shares the crash course he learned in Cape Town when dating and racism collided.

Read Helligar’s entire story below.

When You Hear, ‘Sorry, But I Don’t Date Across Racial Lines’