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Did You Actually Think That Polyamorous Relationship Would Work?

‘The more, the merrier’ doesn’t always apply — especially without the proper boundaries

Aliya S. King
LEVEL
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5 min readJul 10, 2020

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Illustration: Janet Sung

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Dearly beloved, we’re gathered here today to discuss this thing called polyamory: What it is, what it ain’t, and how to navigate it if you so desire. It’s not the same thing as its cousin polygamy, which is the practice of having more than one spouse. (That happens to be illegal in all 50 states — yes, even for Mormons in Utah — so if you’re fantasizing about a harem, let that pipe dream go.)

Polyamory refers to having multiple consensual relationships (no, your work wife doesn’t count). Cheating on your partner is not polyamory, nor is turning a blind eye to your partner’s cheating. In a polyamorous relationship, all parties are equally informed, give equal consent, and (ideally) are equally satisfied.

We may never know the truth about the rumors that continue to swirl around Jada Pinkett Smith and August Alsina. But if there was a consensual relationship and Will Smith gave his approval and had some type of friendship with August as well, that is a poly…

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